Lonely

24th December 2013
lonely

I thought I would blog about something that has been close to my heart over the past few month. Or, closer to the truth, eating away at my heart and gnawing at my insides. Loneliness is horrid. For those in the know, I separated from my husband six months ago, we had been together nearly 15 years. Nothing drastic, we just drifted apart.

Cutting a REALLY long story short: I moved out, he has custody of our son, I live in shared accommodation with 3 younger men (which means a LOT more...

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Date Night

25th July 2013
date-night

Ok so hubby and I separated a few weeks ago now. It was sad at the time but not the traumatic endings that some people have with their relationships. In fact it was a rekindling of our friendship, a reminder of why we got on so well. There has been no shouting and no bitterness, just fairness and love. I for one am very grateful and realise that I am blessed with this type of ending. But an ending it is and we both realised that we were not happy together and that our lives had drifted apart...

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Just Listen

22nd March 2013
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I often hear myself or my colleagues saying things like 'just listen' or 'all we need to do is to be able to listen to the patient'. It made me reflect upon what we mean by listening and is there any 'just' about it.

There is something called active listening. This concept was solidified by some dude called Carl Rogers. He was pretty cool about getting us to understand about listening to people. He came up with three core conditions to do this properly: congruence, empathy and...

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Sorry

22nd February 2013
sorry

Sometimes we just have to hear the words "I'm sorry". Sometimes there is not other phrase that will do, those are the only words that will cut it.

I have just has to say sorry in a professional capacity. I know that as a patient I would want to hear if a member of my health care team got it wrong. I would want to hear an admission of error. Or, heaven forbid, that they had actually got it wrong and made a mistake.

I don't like eating humble pie, I don't think anyone does. Whilst I like...

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I. Said. No.

14th February 2013

It is something that I have been saying a lot recently. I repeat this tiny work over and over again. Sometimes to colleagues but mostly to clients or patients. It made me reflect as to why I say it so much.

I am reminded of a time when I was on holiday in Spain and I say a toddler try and get at the soft drinks in one of the massive fridges that was at the cafe. I saw the child's mother hold the door shut and tell him or her that it was locked and that they couldn't get it open....

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Funny Old Thing....Life

12th December 2012
head-turned

It is a funny old thing this life malarkey. There are some things we have control over and others that we don't. Sometimes there are people who change things around unrecognisably: some in a positive way and some not.

I shall let you into a secret. On Tuesday the 11th December 2012 I was cancer free for 5 years. Now before you go and start cheering (yes, you at the back, I am talking to you too!) this is not a day for celebration. Ever since I was told that I don't have cancer any...

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Christmas Survival Guide

3rd December 2012
christmas-image

Already I have patient's on my caseload worrying about Christmas, and quite rightly. Christmas is a very stressful time of year. There is a social expectation that we all love Christmas and that we all have happy families to go to and be with. There is a dream, also known as the Christmas lie, that there will be no money worries, no arguments with our spouses, that Great Uncle Fred will not try and feel up your wife, that Grandma for once in her life will not be an utter bitch, that the...

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Sound of Silence

26th October 2012

The Sound of Silence, a top tune in my opinion but silence is such a powerful thing. I was reminded of someone who was unable to talk to me, or any other mental health professional. You could see it in their face that they wanted to say something but it clogged, quite literally, in their throat. This got me thinking about the different ways that silence can be used.

I am a chatty kind of soul and it surprises my friends that I use silence therapeutically. I sit there and say nothing...

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Goodbye

21st October 2012

I don't know the words to the 'Time to Say Goodbye' sung by Andrea Bocelli and Sarah Brightman. In this technical age I'm sure that with a touch of a button I could find out but I don't want to. It is a beautiful piece of music and it resonates with my heart strings. It just seems complete and perfect and if I understood what they were singing I think that it would lose some of it's magic for me.

I always tell my patients that I will discharge them. That I will say goodbye. I tell...

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Scar

4th October 2012
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I have thought long and hard about putting an entry into Sinful Sunday. I have long been an avid admirer of all things erotica but putting pics of my naked bod on the internet is not really 'me'. However, it is Breast Cancer Awareness month and I wanted to make my contribution. I fear that it is not very sinful but it does have a message.

Having decided on the image I came across this website (The SCAR Project) and I was very moved by the images of the women. It was the oddest thing...

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